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I (17F) can't get myself to confess to my crush of two years (17M) because of my eating disorder

I (17F) can't get myself to confess to my crush of two years (17M) because of my eating disorder

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Fair-Zookeepergame28

I think talking to your crush about it and make him understand your case will help you but you should get over it as fast as you can, just try and don't give a fuck about everyone and what they think about you.


Dangerous_Training68

I will! Thanks :)


idestroycat

Hi, I’m 20f and I have been struggling with anorexia/restrictions for eight years now. I couldn’t eat at a restaurant, or in front of ANYONE (my cat included) for years, up until like 5 months ago. Going out to dinner is not a staple of ALL relationships, it 100% is not a staple for mine. My boyfriend and I bond over music and TV and video games, and when its time to eat he will offer to eat in our bedroom to make me comfortable if I need it. I don’t think you’re being fair to yourself when you say you wouldn’t be happy together. I understand how hard it can be with parents who 1, do not care, or 2, are actively feeding the disordered thoughts, but that doesn’t mean you’re destined for misery as long as you’re struggling. If you arent ready, then thats different. But you deserve to be happy, an eating disorder like yours or mine does not mean that you can’t be comfortable in a relationship with someone you very much like, but it means learning, growing through the uncomfortable, doing that together. You deserve good things, OP. Pre-recovery, during recovery, post-recovery. You deserve good things.


Dangerous_Training68

Hi! Thank you for this comment; I think it's a reminder that I've needed for a really long time. I'm happy for you that you have a boyfriend who understands and takes care of you. I hope you and I both find ourselves fully recovered in the near future :)


idestroycat

Thank you! I hope that if this is a boy you are interested in who treats you well that you go for it. Best of luck to you with your boy, your parents and your recovery. I’m rooting for you!! :)